Author Archives: Djanka Gajdel

A Mortgage Payment for a Haircut

I’m hearing that the ladies are finished laying out what feels like a mortgage payment to get their hair done. I’m prefacing this blogpost not to include those that have engaged in DIY perms, hair colours or other jackass activities that required a salon to bail them out. Nor am I referencing the salons offering […]

It’s Cool To Be A Dinosaur

When the Raptors won the NBA championship it dawned on me that they did more than that – they rebranded middle-age for women. Like a championship game, menopause at times can feel impossible to beat.  The hot flashes along with depression can appear as heavy and overbearing as a power forward. Their journey as a […]

A Birthday Wish to Me

It was my birthday last week. I could say ‘damn time flies,’ but instead, I’m saying ‘bring it on.’ The wisdom and insights I have acquired at this juncture are priceless and empowering. The seasoned intuition, the decades of experiences, and the ability to exhale as I take in a vista that I have created […]

The Mini Terrorists

I’ve been kidnapped and held hostage. My perpetrator’s names? Hormones. They are erratic in their behaviour, and often I’m incarcerated in their madness. On a rare occasion, these mini terrorists appear to be sensible, which is when I plan my escape, but it never lasts. These ruthless monsters are infiltrating the door to my mind […]

You’re Not Wearing That Are You?

After over three decades of marriage, six words continue to bring tension into our dynamic. “You’re not wearing that are you?” It’s the sentence of doom. The earth cracks, I’m positioned on one side, my husband on the other. Resistance tightly engaged. Even after all these years, on occasion, I find myself uttering those words, […]

Suck, Tuck, Please Sign Here

I’ve eaten so much crow in this lifetime, that I’m acquiring a taste for it. So many things that I have mocked, one being cosmetic surgery. The caveat being that it best serves the more mature woman, engaging in it for her satisfaction. Cosmetic surgery has become as pedestrian as bringing a car to a […]

Shameless Privilege

It appears that William H. Macy’s character from ‘Shameless,’ Frank Gallagher, is in the shadow of the actions of his wife, Felicity Huffman and others including actress Lori Laughlin from “Full House” fame, arrested for bribes concerning university placements for their kids. Come on people; you can do better than that. You have the resources […]

Ah Men

I’m watching, what I believed was a tremendous opportunity, for the Catholic church to finally redeem itself. Taking ownership for the grave damage imposed on the lives of the victims that were sexually abused by its clergy, but I was sadly mistaken. For me, the equation is simple. Abuse is abuse is abuse. If anyone […]