{"id":577,"date":"2018-11-26T00:23:02","date_gmt":"2018-11-26T00:23:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/y0r.68e.myftpupload.com\/?p=577"},"modified":"2019-07-09T20:59:17","modified_gmt":"2019-07-09T20:59:17","slug":"political-correctness-meet-your-ego","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/whatwereyouthinking.ca\/?p=577","title":{"rendered":"Political Correctness, Meet Your Ego"},"content":{"rendered":"

I grew up in a noisy Eastern European family that only knew spirited discussions around the dinner table. \u00a0Our relatives would debate over a spread filled with food and drink. The tone was loud to compete with the lively conversations happening simultaneously. Once the night was over, everyone would hug, kiss and part ways until the next time.\u00a0No one internalized\u00a0what was spoken during the heated discussions that transpired throughout the evening. There was no hypersensitivity to anything, only rigorous debate. Political Correctness didn\u2019t exist. If someone was offended, it was their problem in how they heard or processed the exchange. Curiously no one\u00a0ever was. When speaking with compassion, we naturally pull on language that the speaker and listener are cognizant too.<\/span><\/p>\n

Political Correctness is a manufactured way of speaking, possessing the illusion of augmented language to maintain appearances. It\u2019s rooted in fear and designed for approval while distancing one from the truth. It\u2019s an illusion of compassion. The name alone is telling having the word \u2018political\u2019 preceding the word ‘correctness.’ Making it exclusive while focusing on the least principled of groups, Politicians, who don\u2019t have a code of ethics only the semblance of one. Criminals have a higher moral code while ‘correctness’ is a value judgement. A word focused on the external world rather than one’s truthfulness. One can\u2019t be authentic and genuine while using fabricated terms to address controversial issues. The language doesn’t support it\u2019s perceived intention.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you speak from your heart, you can\u2019t offend because you’re engaging in a compassionate vocabulary that transcends.\u00a0 The message is relayed and received differently. That’s the essence of being polite. It’s considerate. I doubt someone like Trump could have kept up with the open-minded discussions like the ones we had around our table. Where one was acknowledged, void of emotion.\u00a0 The conversations I experienced didn\u2019t have others imposing their views but declaring them. Not everyone agreed, but the civility allowed people to be heard without a boatload of emotion.\u00a0 <\/span>Allowing them the opportunity to express themselves with no one feeling threatened.\u00a0 It is when the ego gets engaged that we start to blame,\u00a0separate and wrong, consequently feeling offended and hurt which is an emotion.<\/span><\/p>\n

As in previous decades, the sixties had inappropriate language that polite people didn\u2019t use. It wasn\u2019t because of Political Correctness, but common sense. It served no purpose except to reveal you were a bully during an era that was discovering and declaring \u2018One Love.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Manners and politeness were instilled upon us as we grew up and\u00a0there was\u00a0a lot back then to alienate us.\u00a0We had more than our fair share of old beliefs hoisted upon us alongside an inequitable distribution of power for women.\u00a0Politeness is fundamental to being civil. It acknowledges and accepts that everyone who shows up on your path is equal and that an unfavourable response is one not rooted in respect. A polite\u00a0person teaches others and is receptive and thoughtful, not rude. There\u2019s no room to be above or below another when one is civil. Somewhere along the line politeness was hijacked\u00a0by Political Correctness. You can\u2019t share for fear of\u00a0offending someone when you stand in Political Correctness. Growing up, we couldn’t always agree with what was spoken, or with each other, but that was okay. We listened, shared and learned.<\/span><\/p>\n

When speaking from a place of love you don\u2019t need to be in doubt, should a neanderthal have crossed our path, it was an opportunity to educate and demonstrate politeness so that person could experience an empowering and respectful exchange, not squash them down from who they were. Social Graces 101 is stating the facts without being condescending towards another and not drawing on an artificial lexicon aimed at looking good while creating separation at a time when we are starving for unity. \u00a0It’s interesting how calming our conversation sounds when we remove adjectives and diffuse emotional triggers by merely stating the facts.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the value judgements that distort the\u00a0truth. Political Correctness is ego infused and ego\u2019s bitch.\u00a0 <\/span>People know of political correctness, but politicians are fluent in it because it serves as a currency that translates into votes \u2014 this type of linguistics masks their lack of understanding from what could be an explosive issue. We want to believe that those who are in\u00a0public service are in a place of authenticity and truth and not concerned about presentation, but we don’t live in that world.\u00a0 Politicians depend on a diet of political correctness while they put their pee-pees on the internet. That\u2019s not only stupid; it\u2019s not very polite. Political Correctness can\u2019t compete with the principals of politeness which are inclusive and universal recognizing there exist only one humanity and one people. \u00a0I do wonder whether civility went the way of common sense.<\/span><\/p>\n

Political Correctness is contingent on language which can be wily.\u00a0 Words associated with the church are offensive in France while sex isn\u2019t. \u00a0The reverse is true in North America. Our curse words are mainly sexually orientated while those of the French reflect the church. What is offensive in one country has no impact on another. The two are\u00a0based on different belief systems. Politeness supersedes both.<\/span><\/p>\n

Political Correctness lives in the unconsciousness. You have to be mindless to utilize its flow of language, searching for agreement rather than perceiving an issue through a perspective of love. If we respected each other and had no value judgements on anything, we wouldn\u2019t have room for political correctness.\u00a0It has morphed into something that I believe is a cry for politeness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being polite recognizes we\u2019re all human beings worthy of the same consideration we would want others to pay us. It\u2019s apolitical. Further, it demands that people be present in how they deal with each other. You have to be conscious when being polite. Perhaps we should coin a new term and call it \u201cPolitical Likeness.\u201d Focusing on our commonalities and what unifies us while appreciating our differences.<\/span><\/p>\n

Part of expanding as compassionate human beings is to be guided by other loving human beings. At a critical time in civilization, it’s essential that we have meaningful conversations and not\u00a0stifle them under a manufactured protocol. \u00a0The goal needs to be to eliminate fear not perpetuate it. Respectful debate and agreeing to disagree are civility. Political correctness has morphed into something that is the furthest thing from getting us back on track.<\/span><\/p>\n

In many ways, Political Correctness has turned into a cagey bully disguised as tolerance pushing politeness outside of its realm to ensure it\u2019s not disturbed. Civility can survive without fear whereas Political Correctness cannot. Fear is its fuel. Being polite requires no disguise. It\u2019s not ego; it\u2019s love. \u00a0Ugliness in language comes from ignorance, and that is where we educate. Hate comes from a lack of respect, and that is where we nurture.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everyone is entitled to their view, but it\u2019s just that, an idea, typically based on the persons\u00a0own facts. \u00a0If you were to distill an opinion in a court of law, you would be required to produce concrete evidence to support it void of embellishments. \u00a0Any uncomfortable emotion we\u2019re experiencing around a point of view is our crap to deal with not the other persons.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humour is not politically correct. Its basis is contrast, which serves as the insight the comic delivers to enlighten its audience. It is the most genuine expression of free speech. The polarity they illustrate in the delivery of their comedy shows us where we\u2019ve been, where we\u2019re going and where we have emotional triggers. Contrast serves as the mirror and comedians are its messengers. \u00a0Political correctness doesn\u2019t allow for comparisons to exist. It\u2019s like living in a state of suspension. When there’s no judgement, it can become a conduit for the insight through contrast.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trump and those of his archetype are in power because we\u2019ve lost our way to be polite. He can speak jack shit, and even though many don\u2019t like\u00a0him, they can\u2019t deny that they feel strangled to express their truth in a manner that he reveals his. He is not Politically Correct nor polite. Politeness reflects strength, diplomacy, intelligence and possesses an elegance. If we were polite when we speak there would be no need for political correctness and no room for\u00a0archetypes like Trump.\u00a0 He would not have a voice nor be in power.<\/span><\/p>\n

A compelling argument, to reintroduce the art of being polite.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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